A bloke has been praised for his decision to skip an annual holiday with his best mates after he was the only one not asked to be a groomsman.

Posting on Reddit, the man explained that he had four best friends who he has known since they were young children.

The now 26-year-olds had all been friends for 19 years and usually go on a holiday in December to watch football.

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However, one of the five was getting married soon – and it threw a spanner into the previously happy friendship group.

The poster said: "Brandon asked the other three guys to be groomsmen in his wedding, alongside his two brothers and two of his friends from college.

"This left me the only homie in the group who wasn't a groomsman.

"I was upset when I first realised, but I talked to my parents about it and they reminded me its Brandon's wedding and not a 'group event', he can have who he likes up there, and just because im not a groomsman doesn't mean Brandon's doesn't consider me a friend."

He added: "My parents are the only one I ever told I was upset about it, and now I think I’m pretty well over it.

"They've had a few grooms-party gatherings, like they went for drinks after they got fitted for suits, and went golfing together, and Brandon and his fiancé had a bbq for their wedding party – that's always a weird reminder for me."

Despite trying to move on from his hurt the man was shocked when his other three friends explained they wanted to invite the other groomsmen on their annual boys trip.

He wrote: "My three friends came to me and wanted to know my opinion on inviting the other groomsmen on the trip as a surprise to Brandon.

"The three of them were clearly all for this idea, and really wanted me to say yes.

"I told them I wasn't sure, I had to think about it. I spoke to them about it today, and said honestly I don’t want to go on a trip being the only non-groomsman.

"I know Brandon's brothers, and I've met his college friends, and they're all cool, but I don’t want to be the clear odd man out."

So, he decided that he wouldn’t go on the holiday this year and they could simply have the trip for the groomsmen.

But, his friends refused to invite them if it meant he wouldn’t join them on the holiday.

The bloke commented: "It’s clear they're also annoyed at them not being able to invite them because of me.

"One of my friends spoke to me separately and he told me he really thinks I’m not fair or a good friend, and asked if its because I resent not being a groomsman.

"[Am I the a**hole] for backing out of the trip if I am going to be the only non-groomsman?"

Many people were on the poster’s side in the situation.

One person said: "They are the AH’s for ruining the trip that has been a tradition for years. If they want the others to come then you have every right to stay home."

Another added: "This isn’t really about OP not being a groomsman; it’s about there being a lot of other activities that OP has been left out of because he’s not a groomsman, and him not wanting to feel like an outsider when the event is a group thing that he should be central to.

"The others are getting carried away with the ‘groomsman group!’ to OP’s detriment."

"The point is that the annual football trip is about the friendship group, not the wedding," a third stated.

Another commented: "Its about the ratio, five groomsmen and 15 homies is different than seven groomsmen and one homie."

While someone else said: "This is an annual trip they’ve been doing for a number of years and I assume, would all like to continue.

"The other groomsmen are the ones that are trying to ruin the tradition with inviting others that haven’t gone before.”

"It is a deliberate snub for only one person to be excluded," noted a popular poster.

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